The other day I had a discussion with one of my guy friends about if chivalrous acts are still necessary in this modern society of ours. He argued that men preforming these acts of kindness for the fairer sex is all in good taste and that it’s part of the male psyche to protect women from the horrors of the outside world.
With the strength of 10,000 angry bulls, I had to restrain myself from giving him the verbal beat down of the century. I am so incredibly sick of hearing that women need help and protection. The last time I checked, I could open my own car door, take a coat off all by myself, and I am most certainly capable of buying the next round of beer when out with the guys. To imply otherwise is just insulting.
Women are not dainty creatures who need help crossing a puddle on the sidewalk. We can pay for ourselves and we don’t need assistance pulling out a chair at a restaurant. Men shouldn’t be giving up their seat on the bus for a woman who is standing.
If I choose to wear uncomfortable shoes out, that’s on me. Some poor fellow shouldn’t give me his way too big Nikes so I can flop around in them while he wears his socks; that’s a lose- lose situation. The same goes for girls who don’t wear coats when it’s 26 degrees out. That was your decision and now you need to deal with the consequences of your action. Taking a jacket from someone smart enough to wear one is unfair to that person, regardless of how much they insist.
I’m not saying that we should all be inconsiderate jerks to one another. But doing something nice for someone just because they’re female isn’t helping anyone. There’s a difference between having basic manners and feeling obligated to go out of your way for someone based on their gender. Personally, it boils down to this; if you wouldn’t do it for a man, don’t do it for me.
To quote Lena Dunham, “The idea of being a feminist—so many women have come to this idea of it being anti-male and not able to connect with the opposite sex—but what feminism is about is equality and human rights. For me that is just an essential part of my identity.”