I broke up with my boyfriend of a year a few months ago, and we started hanging out again recently. I’ve been reminded of all of the things that I love about him since we started spending time together again, but I also remember some of the reasons why we broke up in the first place. While he’s attentive when we’re together, it’s hard to make plans with him sometimes, which is really frustrating. He’s asked me if I want to try dating again, and honestly I’m split. What should I do?
Dear Hopeless Romantic,
In my opinion, when it comes to getting back together with an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, I say it’s never a good idea. You broke it off with this person before so why would things be any different this time around? That’s just my own opinion but I know every situation is going to be different. If you’re seriously contemplating getting back together with your ex, I say that you should first examine why you broke it off in the first place. Have his traits or actions changed since you broke up, or is he still acting the same? The fact that he isn’t going out of his way to make plans with you seems to be a red flag in this situation too. If he was serious about dating again, I would think he would go out of his way to spend time with you, not be difficult about it. Ultimately, you need to really look at why you are considering getting back into a relationship with him. Is he benefiting your life in a positive way or is he just creating more stress for you? If being in a relationship with him again isn’t going to benefit you then I say run for the hills, my friend. Run fast and run far!
I don’t know what it is about this semester, but I just can’t get back in the swing of things. It just feels so weird to be back. I don’t really like any of my classes yet, and don’t even get me started with having to go to club meetings again. Is there anything that I can do to get out of this funk that I’m in?
Winter Break Woes
Dear Winter Break Woes,
I understand this feeling. I think getting back into a routine is one of the hardest parts about coming back to school after a long break. I would say to just give it some time and try your best to have a good attitude about everything. It may seem super difficult right now, but as time goes on and classes become busier you will be distracted by the work you have to do instead of feeling weird. If you still feel this way after a couple weeks, then maybe you should consider switching your major or joining different clubs to see what you really enjoy then. You could even take some time out of your school life and figure out things to do outside of school work and organizations that you like to do. Sometimes finding happiness outside of school can make a big difference when it comes to school stuff. In the end, it’s all about your attitude toward the situation so just try to make the best of everything that you can!