Miss Rocket,
I would like advice on coping with a new relationship where my partner has gotten too comfortable and doesn’t try in our relationship.
Sincerely,
Ms. Commitment Issues
Ms. Commitment Issues,
I’m sorry you’re feeling under-appreciated. It can be really tough when a relationship is something you want, but doesn’t feel like it’s working. My advice is fully dependent on how comfortable you feel confronting your partner directly and how you think they would respond. I’d suggest firstly having a very open, very honest conversation where you lay down directly what the issue is and what you need from them to fix it. This can be scary, of course, but honesty is always the best policy, especially in relationships. Even if disagreements arise, it doesn’t mean it’s one person or the other’s fault, but compromise is vital in any relationship within your life. You could also suggest a date night yourself, or offer up some ideas on how to spend more time together. See how receptive they are if you give them a little nudge.
If that doesn’t work, I think taking some time to yourself can never hurt. It doesn’t mean that you have to break up, necessarily, and if it does come to that, it never has to be permanent! But sometimes when two people need different things in their stage of life, it can be helpful to take some space and figure out what you need. Take care of yourself above everything else.
At the end of the day, you know better than anyone else what you need. Lean on friends close to you, and never shy away from speaking your mind and being upfront with what you need.
Sincerely,
Miss Rocket
Miss Rocket,
How do I balance school and a relationship?
Sincerely,
Miss Needs Help
Miss Needs Help,
I’m going to assume you mean a romantic relationship with a partner for the sake of this response, but I think this can be a difficult balance with any kind of relationship. The most important thing I can stress as someone who has grown in her multitasking abilities is compromise. That idea of “needing to be a villager if you want a village” is so important, and this applies for romantic relationships as well. You need to make sure that you and your partner are willing to put in the same amount of effort to keep your relationship healthy. If the balance starts tilting somehow, an honest conversation might be needed. Communication is the most vital aspect of any relationship.
Personally, I have always valued my education the most, especially while in college. You’re paying a lot of money for your degree! Make sure to get the full benefit of a higher education, especially in today’s world. That being said, once you’ve found where your priorities lie, it’s 100% a two-person job to keep a relationship alive and healthy. Make sure to talk to each other about where you’re at in life and your educational career, but try to take time to prioritize your relationship as well. Try to plan a date night every couple of weeks; even a simple movie night can be fun!
Sincerely,
Miss Rocket
