Ask Andi 9/11

Published by adviser, Date: September 10, 2015
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Question:

Dear Andi,

I’m not going to lie, I hate my mom’s new boyfriend. Everything he does annoys me. Maybe I’m just really overprotective of my mom, or maybe he’s just trying too hard. I don’t want to say anything because she’s so happy. Andi, what should I do?

Sincerely,

Overprotective Daughter

Answer:

Dear Overprotective Daughter,

A lot of times we are hesitant of new people entering into our lives. However, it is important to give everyone a chance, especially if they are important to our loved ones. Not saying you have to spend every waking moment with your mom’s new boyfriend, but give him a chance to be able to relate to you. It’s normal for him to try to fit in with your family. Allow some time before you are too harsh on your judgements towards him. You never know, he might turn out to be really great.

Best Wishes!

Andi

Question:

Dear Andi,

Every time I go to a party, I run into this guy that I went to high school with. Back then, he was a real jerk to me and never even looked my way. Now every time I see him, he always makes eye contact with me. He even walked me home and asked me on a date. What do I do? Do I let bygones be bygones or should I pursue it further?

Sincerely,

Confused and Crushing

Answer:

Dear Confused and Crushing,

College and high school are two completely different realms. I don’t know very many people who are completely proud of who they were in high school. Everyone matures and really begins to find themselves in college. I’m sure you have grown up and matured a lot too. I say give this guy a chance. You know he has a past that may not be so great, so pursue with caution. But it seems to me like he’s trying to prove you wrong and show you he isn’t the same guy he was in high scool. It’s worth a shot. Just remember, one date doesn’t determine permanent fate.

Best Wishes!

Andi

Question:

Dear Andi,

I recently got an internship that I’m really happy about. I texted my best friend to tell her about my internship and all she said was “good.” I was a little upset because I felt as if she didn’t care. Am I wrong for feeling that way?

Sincerely,

Happy and Proud

Answer:

Dear Happy and Proud,

You have every right to live up to your title of happy and proud. It’s a really great accomplishment to start your first college internship. Sometimes things with friends can get  little competitive. Your friend may just be stressed that she hasn’t found a good place to intern at. The future is stressful and determining a future career can be scary. I would bet that your friend may just be taking out her stress on you because she trusts you. I would say you have a right to be upset with your friend, and maybe you need to tell her that what she said hurt your feelings. I’m sure she is happy for you and just didn’t realize the way she acted or what she said hurt you. I’m sure in time she will be happy and proud of you.

Best Wishes!

Andi

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